DISCLAIMER: This blog is my truth. my perspective and my opinion. This is my story, my experience, and I have every right to break my own silence
If you are clueless as to what this breaking news (really is 6 months late ya girl just need to heal is silence and process the second half of the year) is regarding, let me unfortunately catch you up to speed..
But first let's play a game of "Never have I ever"
I'll go first.
Have you ever opened a salon? Raise your hand👋🏻
Have you ever opened said salon on your own, in the middle of a global pandemic, with no capitol, active investors, and with less than 5 figures in the bank? Raise your hand 🙋🏼♀️
Have you ever dreamt of breaking beauty industry norms by creating an open concept co working salon space where women could work along side one another as start up's, opening their own businesses with guidance from you, your 10+ years behind the chair and all the mistakes you have made as a flawed entrepreneur?
Raise your fucking hand🙋🏼♀️
Have you ever hired (and when I say hired I mean leased a space/chair and were legally obligated to provide the bare minimum, keep the lights on & the wifi hot) artist's to work at your salon where you taught them everything you personally did to build your own brand to 6 figures for 3+ years in row?
Raise your hand🙋🏼♀️
Have you ever had a stylist not apply the things you shared so they stayed stuck, stagnant and began to blame you for the lack of results they were seeing in their own business?
Raise your hand 🙋🏼♀️
Now, let's remove the salon aspect as I know if you are an entrepreneur/ and or woman period you can probably relate to fragments of this story
Have you ever worked with a best friend before?
Have your best friend convos bleed into business discussions?
Have those convos ever been shared behind your back ?(I'm talking saved voice memos shared)
Have you ever vented (let's call it what it's called, talked shit) to your mom, boyfriend or other friends about work and other relationships before?
When you were upset, frustrated, and overwhelmed from being outcasted by the entire said friend group for months?
I thought so.🙋🏼♀️🙋🏼♀️🙋🏼♀️🙋🏼♀️
That sister wound runs deep for us all.
And it often leads to colluding (sometimes in your own building of business) and gossip, that I even at times took part in.. and at other times was the topic of conversation as an entire group planned a walk out on me early summer, with no notice, though they were all in lease agreement's for months to come?🙋🏼♀️
Gossip is like glitter, you can never really clean it up. Trust me I've tried. Dawn dish soap taste's like pine-sol smells. Promise.
Have you ever had said friends take screenshots of said convo's off an iPad that belonged to you and was used for music and checking out retail at the front desk?
Oh no? I have. 🙋🏼♀️ That was fun.
They even sent said screenshots to the salon, old colleges of mine in the industry, share on their stories- publicly (and privately with dozens of cosmetology students) trying to ruin my name, brand, and business.
Have you ever had state board called on your salon?
Whom then came out to "investigate" an anonymous tip that your salon was not up to code... only to pass my salon with flying colors, compliment it a dozen times for how clean and easy routine inspections are as they apologize to me repeatedly for wasting my time and express that tips like this usually come from past employee/renters and not to worry about it
Yeah, unfortunately, I have. 🙋🏼♀️
I've experienced all these things and more, WAY more, this year while almost 2 years in to opening my current salon
I however take full responsibility for "the shit talking" as I am human and will forever vent to my people (I will just choose my circle more wisely) when I am struggling, needing advice, and trying to navigate life as someone who wears multiple hats...trying to run a business with the same structure and model as a corporate salon suite, as a one woman show
I also take responsibility for letting there be such a gray area when it comes to friendships and colleges.
As a way maker in the beauty industry I pride myself in not following the rules, and creating such a unique environment for women to start their own business in, with a mentor (not a friend, lesson learned) and hella benefits you won't find in corporate salon America.
This is only a glimpse of my experience, which I will probably never share more of. This feel suffice.
I was done sitting it silence, sacred to speak my truth for blow back, more slander on socials, more rumors, more "psstt. did you hear Molly's whole salon walked out on her?!"
Let this set the record straight.
No one walked anywhere, as I spent months trying to compromise (being entirely too generous with the numbers & lawyers told me I was crazy with my offers) contracts they were all in.
A couple negotiations were made fortunately, 1 was never in a contract to begin with, so along with the rest of their contracts the others were dissolved the moment I felt so personally violated by the screenshooting of conversations (and even my nudes- you read that right) off my personal iPad.