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I'm moving out of state

I repeat, I'm moving out of state..

For a man, is the simple answer but as with everything else, for me it's deeper than that

But if you would have told me a year ago I would be looking up houses and condos to rent in northern Detroit, pivoting my whole career, and researching school districts in Michigan I would have called you crazy and said never would I ever uproot my entire life for a man.

I had zero intentions on moving when I met my boyfriend 3 years ago.

I had never done long distance before, and the back and forth, following this man to surrounding states while he finished med school wasn't easy but our relationship, quality time and the foundation we were building always made it worth it.

I knew the day would come where we would hit this fork in the road and one of us would have to move/sacrifice for the other if we wanted to sustain or we would have to go our separate ways.

I just thought it would be down the road when he was finished with residency and it would be a more long term decision we made together, as he would have more say and control over the outcome.

However incase you have no experience with how the matching system works in the medical field, it's the wild Wild West out here and is quite an intense lottery system that places them in one of their top 5 choices with the luck of the draw.

We got lucky that he was only placed 3.5 hours away and is why I always saw myself commuting the full 5 years.

I've lived in Columbus my whole life (aside from the couple college semesters I lived in Nelsonville, Oh for)

I've built a very well know salon and beauty brand in the heart of downtown Columbus that has been an education hub for 25+ stylists over the last 4 years.

My daughter is thriving in private school and everything she's ever know is here.

My family and our current co parenting schedule for her allows me to live a balanced life with so much support.

It's going to be really different, and I'm not just talking about the snow.

I won't see my friends, family, or clients as often.

My salon will stay open with the 3 stylists I currently have on my team in Columbus, but I will only be home once a month or so to take my VIP clients forcing me to pivot my income sources, and time management skills.

I will go from a part time to full time mom again, essentially. My daughter will only see her dad every other weekend during the school years, unless he decides to move in the coming years to stay close to her. Which will intern be a domino affect, impacting more that just me, my daughter or my boyfriends life. It's affecting her fathers, his families, and my parents daily routines and time they get with her.