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Hadley + Molly Matter

"We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty" -Maya Angelou

Photo Credit: Marcy Ortiz of Coterie Boudoir & Beauty

What I am about to say is going to shock a lot of you.

What I am about to say is going to affect someone of you.

What I am about to say has nothing to do with any of you.

I've personally decided to take the next steps in MY career, and in MY life as 2017 comes to a close and 2018 draws near. This next step, this next chapter begins with me leaving BATB. The salon I helped create, build, and brand for the last year & a half.

Why you ask?

For Hadley.

For myself.

However here is the extended answer;

This year has been about discovering for me.

Discovering what I need in a marriage.

Discovering what the dating life is like.

Discovering how to jungle being a single parent and an entrepreneur.

Discovering whats real from fake.

Discovering who I truly am anymore.

Discovering what I need to be happy.

I did all of this said 'discovering' this year, very publicly and very messy.

I am human. I am not perfect. I've never claimed to be. Nor should others expect me to be. I have a heart. I have feelings (a lot of them) and I deserve to be able to deal and mourn with the emotional losses I've taken this year. Heartbreaks on top of heartbreaks.

There are a lot of things I've done or said this year that affected myself and my loved ones around me. I am aware of them. However I am humble enough to accept my actions, take full responsibility and realize I wasn't the best possible version off my self this year. (Who would be?)

In hindsight BATB was coming together, as my marriage was falling apart this year. The salon was a distraction that my marriage couldn't endure.

This was the year that all the pieces fell apart.

This next year, will be the year that I put them all back together.

"Nothing is more important than empathy for another human beings suffering. Nothing. Not a career, not wealth, not intelligence, certainly not status. We have to feel for one another if were going to survive with dignity."

-Audrey Hepburn

Photo Credit: Julie Jackson Photography

This next year, I intended to slow down.

Take more time for myself.

Spend more time with Hadley.

Refocus. Regroup. Recharge.

29 is my time to shine.

A mentor of mine in this industry always says "If you feel comfortable then its time to make a change." Comfort zones are something we all strive for. We work our asses off to live "comfortably" and not pay check to pay check. We can't wait to get "comfortable" with our relationship status, and then we are pissed when the honeymoon stage wears off.

There are not many rewards that come from comfort zones.

Opening BATB was not comfortable.

State board inspections, city council meetings, contractors, and architects weren't comfortable for me. Cutting that ribbon and switching the sign to open wasn't comfortable for me. Assuming the 'boss' role and the day to day duties that came with co owning a salon that at times had 8 women working there, wasn't comfortable.

Because it was outside of my comfort zone it lead me to one of the biggest rewards thus far, in my 29 years. Opening a salon, my first salon (yes there will be more). But I couldn't imagine opening this one with anyone else. I am so thankful for my co owners and wish them nothing but success moving forward. If you are looking for drama or gossip there is none. Were all geniuenly supportive of each others paths.

Photo Credit: Julie Jackson Photography